Thank you #OurVoiceMatters Blog for nominating Whole Body Fertility and Wellness for the Great Achiever Blogger Award! I am honored to be able to feature articles, stories, and provide information for those who are trying to make lifestyle changes in order to optimize their wellness and fertility to achieve a healthy pregnancy.
When I was just beginning on my life journey as well as my fertility journey, I myself struggled greatly with infertility. I got pregnant 4 times between the ages of 17 and 19. All four of those pregnancies ended in miscarriage at 10 weeks or less. At that age, women are supposed to be in their prime. There was no reason (to my mind) that I shouldn’t have been able to get pregnant. When I got pregnant with my oldest daughter at 20, I learned that there were reasons behind me not being able to get pregnant.
Every doctor that I spoke to refused to run tests to see what was wrong. I lost my first pregnancy at 17 years old, lost two when I was 18, & my fourth when I was 19. I was blessed to get pregnant with my daughter at 20 years old & carry her to term. But to tell a woman so young that there is “nothing wrong” with her, that “tests aren’t necessary”, to “just keep trying”… there was plenty wrong with me & if they would have just ran the tests, they would have known that my hormones were imbalanced, that I was malnourished as well as anemic & also hypoglycemic!
If I had known then what I know now, I would have been able to advocate better for myself and would have been able to make informed decisions and go to my doctors with knowledge instead of just fears and suspicions. I would have been able to advocate for myself, my health, and my fertility and gotten the tests I needed in order to make the changes that I needed to make in my life in order to get my body right to carry a child.
As I have continued down my life’s path and my fertility journey, I have seen how common it is for women to be ignored by their doctors and healthcare professionals and, from this, Whole Body Fertility and Wellness was born. I want to show women how to advocate for themselves in order to get the best care and to be able to also properly take care of themselves in order to reach that healthy pregnancy and beyond. With my blog, I give women the tools to do these exact things!
1. How can you be a good blogger as a member of WordPress Global Village?
To be a good blogger means to provide content that is meaningful to my readers. To not use work from other bloggers without giving credit to them and their blogs. To provide true information. To provide a safe space for my readers to express themselves and to learn in a non-judgmental space.
2. Could you please define the word “PEACE” from your point of view?
Peace to me means a lack of chaos and negativity. It means tranquility and interconnection. A peaceful home is one without without discord in all areas: sound, sight, smell, and feeling. A peaceful relationship is one without fighting, stealing, abuse, or neglect.
3. How do you define support?
Support to me is having one or more persons that are willing to listen to me when I have a thought or feeling or problem or joy or fear or discovery. Having someone that is willing to be by my side in all types of weather, not just the sunshine. Someone who is willing to tell me when I’m screwing up or doing something dangerous; not someone who is just going to tell me what I want to hear. Someone who pushes me and encourages me and challenges me.
4. Do you think there needs to be more discussion on the government level when it comes to domestic violence?
As a survivor of domestic violence, I definitely think there needs to be more of a discussion about it. Does it need to be at a governmental level? I don’t know. When we place our power and safety in the hands of the government, things seem to get all messed up and less safe. So I would say that these discussions need to start at a family level.
Boys and girls need to be raised knowing that it happens, that it is a choice, and that it is not an acceptable way to handle their emotions and feelings. They need to be taught healthy coping methods can be used. They need to be taught to look for the red flags that show BEFORE things get violent. They need to know that if they ever get into a violent situation how to get out of it safely. Do I think that these things should be discussed at the government level, probably not.
However, the consequences of choosing to be an abuser needs to be discussed with those who set the consequences. The help the abused need to get back on their feet needs to be discussed with the agencies and institutions that provide and govern that assistance. The help the abusers and the abused both need to break these cycles (sometimes generational patterns) and to relearn how to do things in a healthy manner needs to be discussed as well. Whether that is at a governmental level or a community level depends on the resources available.
5. What is your favorite vacation story?
Wow… I have had exactly one vacation since I was a child. There wasn’t much exciting about it and I definitely don’t think it was my favorite vacation. I didn’t particularly enjoy any of the vacations I had as a child either, so I don’t have any favorite stories to tell from the vacations. However, there was a weekend trip that we used to make every weekend in the summers when I was a kid. On one of these trips (I had to have been about 10/11 years old) I remember one of the adults being bested by a raccoon and it still makes me laugh to this day. The kids always got sent to bed before the adults so I unfortunately did not get to witness this first hand, but my daddy told me about it the next morning.
Some of the guys that was on the trip that particular weekend had decided to get a case of beer and enjoy it around the campfire that night. We were camped right next to the woods at Rockville Lake Park. We camped there a lot in those days and then car pooled together to take a 15 mile canoe trip on Saturdays and Sundays. (30 + miles in a canoe every weekend and yet I STILL have a fear of water! Go figure!) This was on a Saturday night and Travis had flipped his canoe that day. His clothes were still wet, so he was sitting on the picnic table in his underwear, drinking a beer and roasting marshmallows.
He had the bag of marshmallows sitting behind him on the picnic table, not thinking much about them until he needed to grab another one. Well, if you are familiar with raccoons, you know that they are scavengers and will take advantage of any chance they get to take free food. So this raccoon runs up on the table behind this guy, snatches his marshmallows and takes off into the woods. Travis runs after it, in his underwear, until he looses track of it and comes back to the campsite without his marshmallows. This is already pretty funny, but it gets better. When we all get up the next morning, we find his marshmallows at the edge of the woods. The raccoon dropped them on his way in!
I use this story to remind myself that it is important to stop, think, look at all the options and facts, then create a plan before just rushing headlong into the woods in my underwear. Meaning: Don’t do more work than you have to. Sometimes the results are a lot closer than you think!
6. Which book do you like most? Why?
As an avid reader, this is a really hard question for me. There are so many books that I have enjoyed reading over the years. One that comes to mind in the fiction world is Impossible Dreams by Patricia Rice. It is a romance novel, but it is also about a young woman who has a very whimsical personality who took over her sister’s novelty shop while raising her nephew and then also took on a the task of starting a preschool! The school was unfortunately targeted by an arsonist and she had to rebuild everything, but it’s always stuck with me because of her determination and because she overcame the hardships.
7. Do you find social media to be helpful in reaching and connecting with your audience?
I definitely do! With every blog post that I write, I also share it via email, Instagram and Facebook. This has allowed me to go from about 5 views per month to 1.2 K and more! It allows me to not only reach more people with my content, but also to get more feedback on it so that I can continue to create content that my readers want.
8. With anxiety levels rising in today’s youth, what is one technique that can help them to better manage stress?
I am so glad that this question got asked! Lately, I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety myself. And who isn’t with a global pandemic going on??? But what I have learned being a mother to 6 children with #7 due this year is this: The same things that we use as adults are frequently effective for children as well. Sometimes they require a little tweaking, sometimes they don’t.
One thing we use with our 10 year old girls is to have them do stream of consciousness writing. It allows them to get everything out of their head. Frequently things come up that they weren’t even aware was in there!
From there, we identify the things that need attention and then work on coming up with solutions. This has seemed to effectively reduce their anxiety and fears.
How does the Award work?
So, ‘GREAT ACHIEVER “महासिद्धी” BLOGGER AWARD’ helps spread peace around the world sharing love, fun and happiness creating a beautiful Global Village. The term global village has been used to express the idea that people throughout the world are interconnected through the use of new media technologies. That’s the reason we are able to expand peace in our global village using the web platform WordPress: personally encouraging fellow bloggers to express feelings and thoughts creatively. This award will be given for Best Poem, Best Novel, Best Story, Best Photography, Best Travelogue, Best Article, etc.
The very essence of giving an award is to recognize the expertise and outstanding achievement in a particular field. The ‘GREAT ACHIEVER “महासिद्धी” BLOGGER AWARD’ will be awarded to an outstanding, qualified, dedicated and creative person for presenting a quality work of art. The certificate will be provided as a badge for Great Achievers as a GAMBA WORDPRESS SHINING STAR AWARD for PEACE & SAVE ENVIRONMENT.
Rules & Regulations
1. Thank the person who nominated you, with a link to their blog.
2. Make a Post of the Award with a Statement on Concept of PEACE & SAVE ENVIRONMENT as above.
3. Mention the rules and regulations.
4. Ask 7 questions of your choice. One of the questions must include about “PEACE” and one for “SAVE Environment”.
5. Nominate at least 7 fellow bloggers (but no more than 21 bloggers) and notify them.
6. Follow @kamalsbloggingcafe (https://kamalsbloggingcafe.wordpress.com) to secure certification as a badge to get a chance of collecting badge of GAMBA WORDPRESS SHINING STAR AWARD for PEACE & SAVE ENVIRONMENT. For more details visit https://kamalsbloggingcafe.wordpress.com/award/.
The Three Main Questions:
- How can you be a good blogger as a member of WordPress Global Village?
- Could you please define the word “PEACE” from your point of view?
- Could you please define what saving the environment looks like for you?
My Seven Questions For My Blogger Nominees:
- How do you define support?
- What does female empowerment mean to you?
- When was a time that you advocated for your own health/healthcare?
- Who is your favorite author? Why is this person your favorite?
- Do you find social media to be helpful in reaching and connecting with a greater support system to improve your wellness & fertility?
- What is your number one tip for individuals (male and female) struggling with infertility?
- What is the one thing you wish you had known before starting on your own wellness/fertility journey?
Let’s Live in one roof of a global village- WordPress. Thank you for the support, everyone! Love lots. I hope all of you will pass on the positivity around peacefully and help other bloggers like us who are in need of that limelight and celebrate the charming moment of ‘GREAT ACHIEVER “महासिद्धी” BLOGGER AWARD’.
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